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My daughter was feeling super anxious before the first day of school last year. And this anxiety kicked in weeks before the first day was even upon us.
No matter how many times I tried to quell her anxiety with reassurances that she would have an amazing year, she still defaulted to nerves and anxiety.
My sunny outlook was no match for her kryptonite thoughts that were focusing on everything that could go wrong - every worst case scenario she could dream up.
On the first day of school, when the nerves were mixed with a bit of excitement, I asked her this question:
“What would future you – you on the LAST day of school – tell you today?”
She paused for a moment to think about the question and then confidently responded:
“She would tell me, ‘Anna, this is going to be a piece of cake!’”
That was the thought she walked out the door with for her first day. A firm belief that she could handle whatever the year would bring (and that it would probably be a lot better than all the worst case scenarios she had been believing up until that moment).
What I love about this is that the voice reassuring her was her own. It was rooted in what she knew to be true about herself. It was based on evidence from her past that she not only survived many first days of school, but she has thrived with each new year.
As your littles head back to school this week, consider asking them the same question and see what they find within.
That’s where their superpowers are.
xo,
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